Long-distance relationships get a bad rep, but the truth is, physical distance doesn’t have to mean emotional (or intimate) distance.
If anything, it invites us to get creative, deepen communication, and explore new ways to connect with our partners.
We believe intimacy is more than just proximity, it’s about feeling seen, desired, and connected, no matter the miles between you. And yes, there are ways to keep things steamy while nurturing that emotional bond.
Here’s how to spice up your long-distance relationship, with a little help from technology, communication, and a luxury self-love routine.
1. Prioritize Intentional Check-Ins (Beyond the "How Was Your Day?")
In long-distance relationships, it’s easy to fall into the routine of quick updates: “How was your day?” “What did you eat?” But real connection happens when you carve out intentional moments to truly see and hear each other.
One way to deepen that emotional intimacy is to introduce a ritual where each day, one of you pulls a card from the We’re Not Really Strangers: Couple Edition deck. Every card invites a deeper question, encouraging conversations around love, desire, and emotional needs.
It turns check-ins into something intentional, a moment to learn something new about your partner, even if you’ve been together for years.
And yes, vulnerability can be just as sexy as sexting.
2. Explore the Power of Audio and Video Sexting
Sexting is fun, but hearing or seeing your partner can ignite a whole new level of desire.
Instead of sending the usual "good night" text, try sending a voice note or a photo, something playful or intimate, to spark their imagination before bed. It builds anticipation, gives them something to feel (not just read), and keeps that chemistry alive.
Have fun with it, explore yourself, connect with your own sensuality, and watch how it deepens your connection with your partner.
3. Bring Pleasure Tools into the Chat, Literally
Long-distance doesn’t mean your intimate connection has to be put on pause. In fact, it’s the perfect excuse to explore new ways of experiencing pleasure, together.
Have a night where you both prioritize mutual self-pleasure over the phone or video.
Think of it as your own private show, where you guide each other through what feels good, what you’re craving, and what you want more of. It’s intimate, vulnerable, and a beautiful way to stay connected physically, even when you’re apart.
And if you’re ready to take things up a notch, bring a pleasure tool into the mix. Our Dott Wand is designed to turn solo play into a luxurious ritual, powerful, smooth, and perfect for showing your partner exactly what lights you up.
Who says pleasure tool are just for when you’re alone?
Pleasure is connection, and you both deserve to explore that, no matter the miles between you.
4. Schedule Virtual Intimacy Dates
Long-distance relationships thrive on intentional moments, so why not plan a date night with intimacy in mind?
Light a candle, pour a glass of wine, and carve out time for each other, even from miles away.
Watch a film together using Teleparty (yes, you can sync your screens and stream movies at the same time, distance who?), read a spicy chapter from your favourite book out loud, or share your fantasies over a video call.
The goal? Create space for both emotional and physical intimacy, no matter where you are.
5. Reclaim Self-Pleasure as Part of Your Connection
Long-distance gives you the perfect excuse to get to know your body on a deeper level. It’s a chance to explore your relationship with self-love, put yourself first, and make pleasure a priority.
Try new sensations, discover what actually feels good, not just what you’ve been told should, and share those discoveries with your partner. This doesn’t have to be a secret. In fact, bringing these intimate conversations into your relationship can make your bond even stronger.
Pleasure is self-care.
The more you connect with your own body and embrace your desires, the more confident you’ll feel in connecting with your partner, whether you’re across the room or across the country.